Forgive Your Way to Freedom

How good of a forgiver are YOU?

 

Below is a series of True or False questions to evaluate where you are in the forgiveness process. 

Try to answer each one as honestly as you can.  Usually your immediate thought is the most accurate.  You may also ask a family member or trusted friend to answer the same questions about you from their perspective.  Please see your score at the bottom.

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1. I don’t have any friends or family who have told me I need to forgive someone else.

2. I can think of my offender without negative feelings of stress, anger, or bitterness.

3. I do not keep track of ways that other people have hurt me.

4. I do not say bad things about those who have caused me pain.

5. I don’t share my story of hurt or betrayal repeatedly to other people.

6. I do not go out of my way to avoid the person who hurt me.

7. I would not be uncomfortable to talk to this person face to face.

8. I can be completely objective about my experience, despite my painful past.

9. I have no doubts about my self-worth regardless of what happened to me.

10. I never think of ways I’d like to get revenge against people who hurt me.

11. I can be happy for my offender if they succeed and do well.

12. I do not struggle to accept and receive love from other people or my family.

13. I easily forgive myself when I make poor decisions that impact my life.

14. I do not need addictive behaviors to cover up or escape from my pain.

15. I don’t have difficulty expressing myself or telling people how I feel.

16. I do not have a problem trying to please other people.

17. I do not let people take advantage of me.

18. I do not let what other people think of me determine my value.

19. I can usually embrace the truth, even when a lie “feels” true.

20. I don’t compare myself with other people and I don’t feel that my life is unfair.

21. I do not blame others for the problems in my life.

22. I don’t believe my health has been affected by my struggle to forgive.

23. I have learned new insights that have helped me by recounting my pain in my mind.

24. I am as close to God today as when I first began trying to forgive my offender.

25. I am experiencing freedom through forgiveness.

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0–4 FALSE: Congratulations, you’re doing very well. Hopefully this will help you identify some

areas where you may need to work. Even if you feel that forgiveness may not be a strong issue

for you, it’s likely that you may know someone else who is struggling and would benefit from

this book..

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5–9 FALSE: This would be a clear indication that you are working through some forgiveness

issues that have yet to be resolved. Be encouraged! This book will help you find the freedom

that you seek and deserve.

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10–14 FALSE: Forgiveness is a very definite issue for you, and your struggle is keeping you from

the joy and peace God wants for your life. The good news is that this book was written with you

in mind. You will find the tools you need so you can experience the full joy, power, and freedom

of forgiveness.

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15 + FALSE: At this point you may want to seriously consider professional counseling to help

you manage your trauma. This book will help but it is not intended to replace the therapy you

may need from a qualified counselor.

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